We’ve reached the “end” of my four-part response to Nonstick Nancy’s question about how to maintain her wellness goals. If you’ve worked directly with me, taken a look at my website, or read other blog posts of mine, you may know that I don’t believe in “endings,” per se.
There is never really an end. There is no objective outcome. All we ever have is the process.
So let’s call this the “next in the series,” as I discuss another factor I believe contributes to Nancy’s issues.
You may recall that Nancy tends to start out on the right track, but her goals, and the behaviors she needs to do to reach them, are quickly sidelined.
My greatest obstacle to reaching my wellness goals is maintaining those goals as a priority. Other projects and obligations push my wellness goals further down the list and soon I’ve lost focus.
Again, I believe it’s likely that at least one (or perhaps all 4) of the following is/are a factor in your inability to maintain your momentum:
1. Your goals aren’t appropriate.
2. Your frame of mind isn’t serving you.
3. Your goals are negotiable.
4. You haven’t sharpened your “roll with it” skillz.
You haven’t sharpened your “roll with it” skillz
Go with the flow, chill out, ride the wave. Whatever you want to call it.
Although rolling with it is key to long-term success, this should not be mistaken for:
· Routinely putting your needs behind others’
· Consistently compromising on what you deserve
· Regularly dismissing things that best serve you
I’ll touch on a couple of common ways we do this below.
The Blame Game
Does it “seem” like things are always cropping up that conflict with your workout? Or with your new healthy eating plans?
A meeting? Happy hour? A late night that screws with your morning routine?
Someone else’s actions?
Notice that these things are external. If you try to control all of the infinite external factors in your life in an attempt to create the perfect scenario in which you can finally follow through with your health behaviors, you will continue to have difficulty maintaining your goals.
The Secretly-Hoped-For Sabotage
Do you find yourself secretly welcoming an excuse to shelve your healthy behaviors?
For instance, missing your workout …
“Looks like I’ll have to skip since my workout partner canceled”
“I’ve got a lot on my mind so I’m going to skip my workout to clear one thing off my to do list”
For example, making the choice to consume things that don’t serve you …
“I was going to eat fruit for dessert, but it’s so-and-so’s birthday. Gotta eat cake!”
“I’ve had a really hard week. I deserve some wine. I’ll start with my new eating plan on Monday.”
So how do these aforementioned points fit into going with the flow?
It means that when things do come up, you figure out a way to consistently fit in [insert your chosen health behavior]. If your “non-negotiable” looks like it’s in jeopardy, figure out a way to make it happen – on some level. Any level.
It means breaking the cycle of detrimental thought patterns long enough to give yourself a chance to experience something new so you can build upon it in the future. Thoughts contribute to your actions, which create your results.
Try to avoid an all-or-nothing mindset…just do a little and call it a day.
Do a little and see how you feel.
Do a little, congratulate yourself for showing up for you, and move on to the next thing.
Other options for how to fit in your goals:
1. If your workout partner cancels, go for a walk or do a quick online workout.
2. Acknowledge your workout as a legitimate commitment; choose another time for your meeting.
3. Take a nap so you have energy to go to the gym.
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Whatever you do, take responsibility for yourself and your health.
Do what’s best for you. You’re worth it.